I am so sorry you had to go through that. It's obvious to anyone reading your blog that you love Niko and are doing a great job as a parent, and for someone to ignore all that because of some kind of political shibboleth makes me furious. I've seen this happen to another friend of mine who couldn't breast-feed for medical reasons, and it made me furious then too. I'm not sure whether it's our fucked-up society or what that makes women so unkind to each other, but I hate seeing people I care about and respect on the sharp end of the unkindness.