Housemates/platonic partners are totally welcome to respond here! Possibly part of the reason we don't fight much is that I've lived with a bunch of different people I wasn't "involved" with and thus HAD to work on our relationships/respect issues because otherwise there was no reason to keep living together? Because room mate agreements are much easier to end than a love/sex relationship?
I'm assuming (yes, yes, blah blah blah, ass you me) that they included little spats/bickering in the arguing, and stuff like "how come I'm THE ONLY ONE WHO EVER does dishes around here!!!" etc because otherwise... wow.
(side note, I used to have a strict toilet seat DOWN rule to prevent stuff from falling into the toilet, but after an extended bout with gastritis and THEN getting pregnant and having to pee at a second's notice, we now have a toilet seat UP rule. I totally get Toilet Seat Issues Being Big and adore the idea of a prettily lettered reminder on top of the seat.)
If you're interested, the book says that arguing is not inherently bad, but if you hide arguments from their kids (especially if you start arguing then go off to finish the argument where they can't see), then THAT is bad. Kids do best when they see arguing that is RESOLVED. So sure, fight about who drank the last coke (or whatever) but let your kid also see how you resolve the issue. Which was interesting, and makes sense!
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I'm assuming (yes, yes, blah blah blah, ass you me) that they included little spats/bickering in the arguing, and stuff like "how come I'm THE ONLY ONE WHO EVER does dishes around here!!!" etc because otherwise... wow.
(side note, I used to have a strict toilet seat DOWN rule to prevent stuff from falling into the toilet, but after an extended bout with gastritis and THEN getting pregnant and having to pee at a second's notice, we now have a toilet seat UP rule. I totally get Toilet Seat Issues Being Big and adore the idea of a prettily lettered reminder on top of the seat.)
If you're interested, the book says that arguing is not inherently bad, but if you hide arguments from their kids (especially if you start arguing then go off to finish the argument where they can't see), then THAT is bad. Kids do best when they see arguing that is RESOLVED. So sure, fight about who drank the last coke (or whatever) but let your kid also see how you resolve the issue. Which was interesting, and makes sense!