My partner and I went through a rough patch where there was a recurring theme of conflict (partly stemming from Bad Advice I was getting from external sources; it mostly resolved when I cut ties from advice givers and when we realized my partner had undiagnosed and untreated ADHD and we both learned how to cope with it in a healthier manner). But it's never been 8 times/day, and we've always used our words, treated each other with respect and not sarcasm/nastiness/yelling, used reflective listening strategies, made efforts not to hurt one another's feelings, etc.