Yeah, I somehow grew up without ever acquiring most of the girl skills that my friends all view as mandatory, so I just ... do not. My younger kid was truly perplexed that I could not teach her how to shave her legs. (I said, look, basically everyone my age learned how to do it at 12 at a slumber party because mothers in the 80s were all 'but you're too young!' so I'm sure you'll figure it out. She hit up friends, same as all the 1980s girls did, and sure enough, it was fine. For makeup, she used YouTube.)

Jo Walton says her gender identity is "this is a perfectly acceptable way to be a woman, and fuck anyone who thinks otherwise," and that's absolutely mine!