G-d, I loathe "lactivists". And you know why. When I had my disastrous pregnancy I had no intention of breastfeeding, because I need medication to function and I really didn't think the baby was going to need any more Ritalin, antidepressants or painkillers than the baby was already going to get from, you know, being stuck inside me.
People were unbelievably rude about this and often suggested that I should stop the meds for the whole duration of pregnancy and bfing, because it's totally safe for a baby to have a parent who cannot concentrate for more than 10 seconds unless they become so totally hyperfocused that they will not hear a bomb going off (or a baby crying) until they're DONE with whatever they're DOING, or who hears voices when their hormone levels get too high and knows that they're not real, but still hears them, or who is too depressed to want to bother to get dressed in the morning and can be found wearing a towel playing Minesweeper at 5 PM. As it turned out I didn't have a baby in the end, but if I had, I'm sure it would have continued.
I had an argument with one of these people on the Bujold List who thinks that if you're a gay male with a male partner, you're A BAD PARENT if you're not willing to take hormones so that your breasts will produce milk. Because your bodily integrity should not be more important to you than the baby getting your milk.
I have no words.
But if you ever want one savaged I can probably be called out.
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People were unbelievably rude about this and often suggested that I should stop the meds for the whole duration of pregnancy and bfing, because it's totally safe for a baby to have a parent who cannot concentrate for more than 10 seconds unless they become so totally hyperfocused that they will not hear a bomb going off (or a baby crying) until they're DONE with whatever they're DOING, or who hears voices when their hormone levels get too high and knows that they're not real, but still hears them, or who is too depressed to want to bother to get dressed in the morning and can be found wearing a towel playing Minesweeper at 5 PM. As it turned out I didn't have a baby in the end, but if I had, I'm sure it would have continued.
I had an argument with one of these people on the Bujold List who thinks that if you're a gay male with a male partner, you're A BAD PARENT if you're not willing to take hormones so that your breasts will produce milk. Because your bodily integrity should not be more important to you than the baby getting your milk.
I have no words.
But if you ever want one savaged I can probably be called out.