What kind of adult do you want to raise?

In the wake of the Tiger Mother bruhaha (timely? me? NEVER) some of the most interesting responses to parenting discussions have been less about how to raise/discipline your child and more about what you want your child to be. I’m not talking about “I want my child to be a CEO” or “I want my child to be wealthy” or “I want my child to be a master violinist.” It’s less tangible things like “I want my child to be empathic,” “I want my child to be kind,” “I want my child to not give up.” And that’s got me thinking.

In twenty years, when I meet the adult I’ve raised, what do I want to see? What do I want my adult child to be? What do I want to instill in my child?

I hope that when he’s an adult, Nikola will:

• be kind and empathic, and care about other people
• be a decent conversationalist, comfortable around other people
• have good manners
• be self sufficient: able to do his own laundry, cook, get to work on time, etc
• know how to solve problems, both abstract and concrete
• think for himself and question things
• have a love of learning and a curiosity about the world

What about you? When you meet your adult child, what qualities do you want to see? What do you hope to instill in your child?

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Yet Another Post About Shoes

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I dropped about $30 at Payless on a pair of Safe-T Step black laceup shoes that are aimed, I think, at people who work in kitchens and warehouses and will in general be on their feet all day. I’m wearing them around the house right now to break them in, and tonight I’ll wear them on the half-mile walk to tutoring. I was riding around in the car today in my canvas shoes, unable to feel my toes because it was so cold, so we’ll see how these shoes hold up. the 8.5W were much too tight and the 9W are a little loose, but hopefully that means I can wear these shoes with 1) an insole and 2) thicker socks and not have any problems.

This is not the ultimate solution to my shoe needs. These are vinyl shoes and they WILL wear out soon. But they are something that can bide me over until I can get “real” shoes and they will work both as an office shoe and as a walking shoe, if I ever manage to get a job.

When it gets warmer, I’m going to try and get a pair of New Balance shoes. A lot of people have recommended them, but I’ve had bad experience with them wearing down and rubbing my feet in weird ways (like, blister-to-open-sore-in-minutes rubbing, and my feet/heels are INCREDIBLY calloused so blisters AT ALL are rare). I’ll see if I can’t find a different style or something. But this spring and summer I’m going to be doing a LOT of walking, since the closest parks are a mile away, the library is over half a mile away, the zoo is free, and I don’t have a driver’s license.

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