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Day 07 – Least favorite plot device employed by way too many books you actually enjoyed otherwise
It goes like this:
Woman is a main character!
Woman had terrible awful no good very bad life, including death of many people close to her (especially parents), and sexual abuse and rape! Woman possibly had her parents die, then went into the foster care system where she was raped by multiple foster fathers!
Woman has daddy issues!
Woman has a boyfriend!
Boyfriend is controlling and aggressive, and it’s portrayed in a positive, macho way!
Woman has daddy issues directed at him, or at his father who is JUST LIKE a father to her, only with less raping! SHE NEEDS A FATHER, Y’ALL!
Woman flees boyfriend’s controlling, aggressive love and finds a passive man with no personality to love/live with! But she misses boyfriend’s father! WHO IS PRACTICALLY HER FATHER!
Woman returns against her will to controlling, aggressive ex-boyfriend and his father!
There is sex! She does not want the sex, or claims to not want the sex! Perhaps she is tied up! It is sooo sexy! Her ex-boyfriend is soooo hot! This isn’t rape, this is hot sex with her saying no at first, while tied up, and then she has a million orgasms because controlling, aggressive dues are just that sexy!
Her passive man with no personality shrugs and says ‘ah, well’ and helps her pack up her clothing to move in with her controlling, aggressive no-longer-ex boyfriend, and his father. Because she needs a dad! And a man who won’t let her say no out of fear! SHE NEEDS TO FACE HER FEARS. HER FEAR OF LOVING. AND ALSO RAPE. SHE JUST NEEDS TO LOVE AGAIN. AND HAVE HOT SEX. DO NOT DOUBT THE MAGICAL POWER OF COCK. JUST DON’T.
Sometimes this controlling, aggressive man is a vampire or a werewolf (he just can’t help himself! he is a monster! ONLY SHE CAN SAVE HIM!), or he’s a former (or current, trying to retire) assassin or spy or something. Sometimes he’s just a dude. But he LOOOOOVES her! He wants to keep her SAFE! He wants to PROTECT her! He wants to tie her up so she can’t get away and it’s erotic and she says no but she means yes he knows this because he knows her so well and one million orgasms! And possibly he’s turned her against her will or without her knowledge into a vampire/werewolf/assassin/whatever because he just can’t live without her by his side!
So, you see, even when she’s the main character a woman is still at the mercy of her douchey boyfriend and has to redeem him/enjoy sex with him/snuggle up with his daddy BECAUSE SHE NEEDS A FATHER.
This is a big, big part of why I dislike most fantasy/sci-fi/genre fiction/fiction with romantic elements in it. Sometimes it’s handled well. Usually it’s a steaming pile of fail that emphasizes the notion that:
Women need men. Badly.
Grown-ass women crave father figures to nurture and protect them, but who cares if their moms are dead, who needs a mom anyway.
Women want sex all the time and it’s always totally hot and if a woman says no just keep doing your sexy thing because she secretly wants sex hurray rape culture!
A woman’s job is to save or redeem a man. Women love this! Men are basically just projects. TO DO: grout bathroom! Caulk windows! Re-gap car’s spark plugs! Redeem monster boyfriend!
Women! Even as main characters they still exist primarily to prop up a dude who needs them. NO THIS IS NOT INSULTING TO DUDES AT ALL, claiming that without women they are drooling murderous beasts who can’t pick their socks up off the floor.
This sounds terribly specific, doesn’t it? But I’ve encountered it, or close variations of it, in a bunch of books written at different times by different people.